Questions? Here are answers before you ask.
Q. Do you take male, female or couples?
A. I am inclusive: men, women, trans and couples – among others are accepted. The experiences I provide are uniquely tailored for gender identity, orientation and personal circumstances.
Q. What is your ethnic background?
A. I am Canadian born Asian.
Q. What are your physical stats?
A. Fit. Black hair. Brown eyes. 173 cm tall. 70 kg.
Q. Are you purely a Dominant, or will you “switch” to being submissive?
A. I am dominant only.
Q. What sort of training have you been through?
A. I have been educated and mentored in various ways for each activity I do, to ensure a safe and satisfying experience. Take Japanese rope bondage for example: I spent thousands of dollars over two years to reach minimum competency… and it didn`t stop there.
Before doing a major activity with a sub, I will have experienced it on the receiving end myself – so I have an idea of what the sub will experience. That makes me somewhat a masochist as well.
Q. What is a tribute?
A. A tribute is your show of appreciation and gratitude to your Dominant. It demonstrates that you recognize the time, energy, investment and effort your Dominant has put into you and your session.
Tribute is your contribution to making sessions happen. It covers the cost of the setting to host our in-house session. And there is time and effort to plan our session, pack and prepare, travel to meet you, and post-session clean up.
The tribute is also your support in my continuous improvement. Thousands of dollars have been spent on training to bring me up to my current level of skill. Many thousands more have been spent on equipment and attire.
That said, a tribute is not a charitable donation, nor is it a payment for services. You can keep your money or gift if that is how you see it: I will not meet you in that context.
I do not need the money from sessions to make a living: I love what I do as a Dom, and will only meet those who I feel we can share in that passion.
Q. What are the risks with this experience?
A. There will always be some level of risk, regardless of how minute it may be. Those risks depend on the type of play you seek. You will be made aware of significant risks before your session begins, and there will be ways to manage those risks. I apply Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) and Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC) principles to the experiences I provide.
Q. Do you take beginners?
A. Yes. The level of play and approach for a beginner will be different than for an enthusiast or experienced client. Your needs and limits as a beginner will be taken into account for your session.
Q. Will I get aftercare?
A. Yes. Aftercare is pre-planned depending on the scene, and on my assessment of your composure following the scene. A written post-session report will be expected from you with a couple days after the scene – for you to reflect and rebalance, and for me to gauge your state.
Q. How are you different from a “dominant” escort?
A. As a real Dominant, you will find that I am not a “service top.” You may also distinguish your experience with me from that of a “dominant” escort by the approach I apply, and by the skill level for a given practice. Many kink activities carry risk and an untrained practitioner can be very risky. Basic bondage for example can be unsafe with the potential for nerve and tissue damage with an untrained person.
Things you may note about me include the time we spend to plan your scene before it starts; the use safe words and signals; technical knowledge, discussion of limits, risk and consent; and my level of awareness and attention on the client I am working with. Generally accepted BDSM principles are followed.
Q. How are you different from an amateur Dominant?
A. Experience is the key distinction between me, as a pro-Dom versus an amateur Dominant.
As a pro-Dom, I deal with a wide range of scenarios, situations, practices, and preferences — all unique to each individual client. This translates into a level of intuition that will allow me to lead you on a more advanced journey – beyond enjoyable sensations… beyond headspace… to a more profound experience.
As a professional, I also take pride in the work I do by becoming educated and skilled in the experiences I provide, and by giving the attention each client needs.
Q. What will my experience be like?
A. This depends on the activities and experience you’re open to. Your experience is unique to you. Every session involves planning to ensure our goals are met. Feel free to request a Consult Over Coffee session to meet in person if you wish to have more detailed planning and information.
Q. Will there be markings on my body?
A. No. Not if you choose to not be marked. Temporary body marks like welts and bruises may result from certain types of the play (i.e. impact or restraint), although I take care to avoid leaving marks if that is what you choose.
Q. Do you provide full service or oral?
A. You are requesting a session with a professional male Dom for your experience, not an escort. While sexual domination and sensual play could occur if I / we desire, that does not guarantee any form of sex.
Q. Do you do scat?
Q. Will you permanently mark or mutilate my body?
Q. Do you do edge play (not to be confused with “edging”)?
A. I will only consider edge play that I am skilled with, after you and I get to know each other. For example, I will not entertain extreme breath play with a new client.
Q. Will you take me as a lifestyle slave?
A. Although I live the BDSM lifestyle, I am not accepting lifestyle slaves at this time.
Q. Can you provide a photo of your face?
A. For safety reason, face photos are not provided, and must never be a condition for booking an appointment. Rest assured, clients say I am good looking, handsome, and even better looking than my photos. Should you want to see how I look before a scene session, feel free to request a Consult Over Coffee session to meet in person and to share information.
Q. Can you provide a full nude or “dick pic?”
A. The experiences with me are for sophisticated and distinguished individuals. Plenty of nude or “dick pics” of others may be found on the Internet with a Google search.
Q. Do you do outcalls?
A. Yes, outcalls are available. I will bring a bag of implements; however, the amount gear I bring will be limited compared to what I have in the studio.
Q. What are the settings for hosted sessions?
A. Your session will take place in a clean, safe and private setting. There are various themes (i.e. dungeon, boudoir, medical room, sissy room, classroom, kinky living room, etc.) – some dark and ominous, some exciting and some cozy – and each sets a different mood. The choice of setting will largely depend on the mood we aim to achieve.
Q. Are those photos really you and how recent are they?
A. All my photos are truly me, and are as recent as a few weeks old.
Q. What do you accept as tribute?
A. Cash… in addition to any gift you’d like to bring along with that.
Q. What will you do to keep my privacy?
A. Privacy and discretion is assured for all the experiences I provide. What occurs behind closed between me and you remain confidential. Recording devices are not permitted in the room where your session occurs, and there is no view into the room from the outside. Discretion is standard with any chance public encounter outside a session.
Q. Are you STI tested?
A. I am fully tested regularly throughout the year, and am tested STI negative… not that this is relevant in most cases.
Q. How do you protect me from pathogens, if there is a chance for that?
A. All activities are conducted with health safety as a top priority. Depending on the activity, there is discussion around this beforehand.
All surfaces and tools are disinfected after each session, and used implements are properly sterilized as needed. Latex barriers are also used for any activity that pose a risk of transmittable infections. The Dom’s hands are properly washed before each session as a given.
First aid supplies are also kept on hand if needed.
Q. How do you disinfect surfaces / sterilize instruments?
A. Surfaces and implements are cleaned with Clorox disinfecting wipes and 99% isopropyl alcohol. Metrex CaviCide (often used in NICU, operating rooms, isolation rooms, patient care areas and laboratories) might also be used as an intermediate-level surface disinfectant. Insertable instruments are washed with anti-bacterial soap and sterilized with clinical grade materials or with a steam auto-clave.
Q. Do you have first aid and CPR training?
A. Yes. I’ve had first aid and CPR training through St. John’s Ambulance services.
Q. Do you party and play?
A. I do not take recreational drugs, and remains sober to ensure you receive a professionally delivered experience.
Q. How much advance notice do you need for an appointment?
A. Sessions should be booked ahead of time at least 24 hours. Booking days or a week ahead is ideal for the best availability as I have a full schedule.
Q. Where are you located?
A. I work at various studio locations in the Toronto area. The setting is determined by availability and what might suit best for your scene.
Exact location provided after an appointment has been booked.